A Nigerian pregnant woman (name withheld) narrates how her husband goes crazy during sex, beats her until he ejaculates. Now she has a brain injury.
“I don’t Know if my Husband is mad or have spiritual Problem, But a doctor and a Psychologist we met said that he is suffering from sadism and we have been going for counselling but yet no positive result.
“It all started when we were dating. we don’t normally have sex. He always tells me that he won’t want to rush anything or offend his maker by involving in premarital sex. We dated for 2 years without sex only kissing, hugging and sleeping on each other.
“Immediately we got married, we had quick sex which resulted in my first son. He even wrote sex time table and pasted it in our room. Anytime am horny and demanded sex, he will tell me that he is in prayer week or we will have a short quicky. I got used to the quickie.
“Last 7 months, he called in the midnight and told me that he has not enjoyed sex as a married man, we talked about it and I promised him to do my best that I don’t enjoy it too. We agreed to enhance our sex life.
“Three days later, he came home with a gift which led to a shot romance I have never witnessed before, since our 3 years of marriage it led to rough sex, he was beating me and hitting me with anything he placed his hands on moaning while I was crying and trying to escape. Our plastic jug I placed beside our bed was smashed on my head, he even used his belt, whipping me like a thief and moaning till he ejaculated.
“He turned to me and told me that he enjoyed it. He took me to a hospital and they gave me a pain killer. Later he explained it is the only way he enjoys sex. That if he didn’t see me in pain, he won’t enjoy the sex. That incident alone got me afraid. I started avoiding him in bed. I later found out that am pregnant and the nurses told me that I need to be having sex with my husband now.
“I told him that, and he was very happy. That night, we had another rough sex which led to other injuries. He later bought a chain and key for me to use and chain him if he turns wild but it didn’t work. I talked to a friend and she directed us to a physiologist and a doctor, he was given drugs and started counselling.
“As am talking to you now, we had sex two days ago, he nearly killed me with hammer, he didn’t even remember that I was pregnant, he raised me up and hit me on our drawer, he smashed our standing mirror on my buttocks. It was our neighbours that rescued me when they heard my cry and noise that was coming from our room.
“I didn’t even know when I was rushed to the hospital because I fainted because he hit my head on our wooden bed. Thank God for my neighbour who came for my rescue because I wouldn’t have come out alive till he ejaculated because the doctor said that I have a small brain injury and my baby is not in good condition, my mum and my elder brother is in the hospital now. They said he won’t marry me again.
“I love this man and he loves me, leaving him in this kind of problem, will it help him? will I be able to abandon my first child and go? He has been pleading to see me and pay the hospital bill or even know the condition of my wounds but my brother refused. Please I need advice.