NP’s Family Dynamics on Sunday:
A lady seeks our thoughts on navigating unwanted relationship pressure and internal confusion
“Dear Sis Eesher,
I am in a relationship with a brother. He is financially okay but I do not feel any attraction towards him.
Whenever I hear his voice or see him, I feel a strong sense of discomfort and dislike. He talks with an accent, and his grammar is somehow not good. His appearance doesn’t please me.
I have tried to give the relationship a chance, but I still do not feel any attraction.
His family is pressuring me to marry their son. I am 31 and he is above 34, but I do not feel comfortable doing so.
Even though I have tried to accept this relationship and move forward with it, I am worried that I do not truly love my partner.
I fear that marrying him without feeling love will lead to regret and unhappiness. I have tried to make him dislike me, but he does not seem to notice my negative attitude towards him. He is very persistent and forgiving when I act out, even though I am hoping that he will see the red flags and end the relationship.
I recognize that I am not perfect either, but I do not feel any attraction to him. I mustered the courage and told him to go for another sister if he eventually found one but he never listened.
However, all of the men I like are not interested in me, and the men who are interested in me are not the ones I like. I am feeling confused and scared about what to do next. I feel stuck and unsure of what to do😭😭😭.”
Dear readers, your responses could help save a sister and a brother’s future. Please, be emphatic, realistic, and kind. We are looking forward to reading your views.
