NP's Family Dynamics with Eesher: When a parent becomes the test.. Dear Sis Eesher, I need advice on coping with my father, who has been emotionally, mentally, and sometimes physically abusive towards me since childhood. My mother left him long ago, so I grew up with him. I thought things would improve when I entered university, but nothing has changed. He constantly shouts, insults, belittles, and curses me. When I was younger, he used to beat me over small mistakes, and even now, he still hits me with anything he finds—stones, his...