NP’s Family dynamics with Eesher: Finding peace and improving behavior amidst life’s challenges
Dear sis Eesher
“Please I seriously need your advice. The problem I have is that I encounter many problems in my life. Starting from my family members, my coworkers and my relationships. Even if I try not to cause problems, it seems like problems are always pursuing me.
My family seems to not like or support me, and I don’t know how to explain it. People in my workplace certainly have problems with me, and I don’t know what I did to them.
If I start a new relationship, at first, it will go smoothly, and later, I will have problems again. I don’t know what I will do to solve all these problems. I am confused and depressed now.”
Dear Anonymous
I’m deeply sorry to hear about the challenges you’re facing. Feeling surrounded by strife in your family, workplace, and relationships is overwhelming, but it’s important to remember that you’re not alone, and things can improve with time and effort. Here are some steps to help you navigate through these difficulties:
1. Self-Reflection
Take some time to reflect on your interactions and patterns. Ask yourself:
– Are there any recurring behaviours or situations that might contribute to misunderstandings?
– Do you often feel misunderstood, or do others misinterpret your intentions?
– This reflection is not about blaming yourself but about gaining clarity.
2. Family Dynamics
– Families can sometimes be complex and challenging. If your family isn’t supportive or you feel isolated, consider:
– Communicating your feelings: Choose a calm moment to express how you feel. Use “I” statements like, “I feel unsupported when…” to avoid sounding accusatory.
– Setting boundaries: If certain family behaviours hurt you, it’s okay to create emotional boundaries to protect your well-being.
– Remember, you don’t need everyone’s approval to find peace.
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3. Workplace Challenges
In workplaces, misunderstandings or conflicts can arise due to differences in personalities or expectations. To address this:
– Build rapport: Try to foster neutral, respectful relationships. Simple gestures like being kind, listening, or even asking about their day can help.
– Seek feedback: If possible, talk to a trusted colleague or supervisor to gain insight into how you’re perceived and if there’s something you could improve.
4. Relationships
Relationships often start smoothly but require effort and understanding as they evolve. Consider:
– Taking things slowly: Allow relationships to develop naturally and ensure mutual understanding and communication.
– Setting expectations early: Be clear about your values, needs, and what you can offer in a relationship.
5. Coping with Depression and Stress
– It’s normal to feel overwhelmed in your situation. To cope:
– Talk to someone: Share your feelings with a trusted friend or a counsellor. Sometimes, an outside perspective can help.
– Focus on self-care Engage in activities that bring you joy or peace, such as prayer, journaling, exercise, or pursuing a hobby.
– Practice gratitude: Write down a few things you’re thankful for daily, no matter how small. This can shift your mindset over time.
6. Seek Support
– If these problems persist, consider reaching out to a professional therapist or counsellor. They can help you explore the deeper reasons behind these conflicts and equip you with strategies to handle them.
Remember:
You are valuable, and your struggles don’t define your worth. It’s okay to feel confused and hurt but take small steps to regain control of your life. Focus on building inner strength and clarity, and gradually, you’ll see changes in your relationships and environment.
And finally, recite this du’a frequently, “Allaahumma ‘innee a’oothu bika min munkaraatil-akhlaaqi, wal-a’maali, wal– ‘ahwaa.” You will see remarkable improvement in sha Allah.
With love, Sis Eesher.
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